DofE volunteer supports hospice in mother's memory

Abbie McDermott had her first experience of the Hospice in 2020 when her Mum, Leah, was cared for in our Inpatient Unit. Leah was sadly diagnosed with triple negative breast cancer and passed away within the care of the Hospice three years ago this month. Abbie and her twin sister, Chloe, were just 11 years old.

Three years on, Abbie had the opportunity to achieve her Duke of Edinburgh (DofE) award. The scheme empowers young people; supporting them to learn new skills and build confidence through volunteering. Abbie grabbed the opportunity with both hands and now spends two hours each week helping out at her local Hospice shop.

"I didn't like going into the Hospice when Mum was in there. But when I started going to counselling, I was excited to go because I really enjoyed it. It was nice because it was chilled. We talked about things, but we played games as well so it felt like having a chat with your mate. It was relaxed and didn't feel pressured.

"I chose to volunteer at the Hitchin shop because the team who looked after my Mum and my family were great. On my first day at the shop, I helped on the tills. Everyone was really friendly and let me start doing work straight away. They act like I've been there a while and have confidence in me, it's really nice.

"Being there supports the staff and other volunteers, especially when it's busy. I've gained great experience and confidence when talking to people."

Proud Dad, Karl, speaks of his family's experience:

"Volunteering was all Abbie's idea. I don't think she realised what volunteering opportunities there were. She thought volunteering would be at the Hospice itself but after looking into it she saw there were opportunities at the shops too, and other roles.

"Their mum would be extremely proud of both of the girls. Abbie is now looking at going into medicine, potentially studying oncology which, considering what she's seen and experienced with Leah, is an incredible thing to do. I'm so, so proud.

"I have to say the care at Garden House Hospice Care was really good. One day, one of the nurses brought in a plaster kit and the girls did a plaster cast holding their Mum's hand which they could keep. It was really special and it means so much."

Karl continued: "There is being looked after and being given care, and then there is going the extra mile and having final memories. They were amazing. It was like we had the old Leah back for a short time, it was great."

Every week, Abbie is making a difference through volunteering, gaining worthwhile experience whilst offering the valuable volunteering hours the Hospice relies on to keep their doors open.

Caroline Haskins is Volunteer Engagement Manager at the Hospice:

"Abbie is one of over 800 volunteers who support the Hospice across a variety of roles. We could not continue to care for families like Abbie's without them. All our volunteers are truly appreciated, not only during Volunteers' Week but every minute of every day across the year.

"Whether you have a day or an hour a week, volunteering comes in all shapes and sizes at the Hospice. The benefits are huge, offering a sense of purpose, a sense of community, helping you to meet new friends, increase your social skills, improve your self-esteem, support with employment and higher education. Plus, it's great fun!"